We can be experts at telling clients to stop beating themselves up, but it may be harder to recognize this and show compassion within ourselves. In order to look within, we first need to commit to the process without judgment of how long it takes or how well we do it. To search within requires gentle intention. To find a sense of personal control is not about becoming more controlling, rather to find the truth in personal choice, seeing options where we may not have seen them before. Pursuing meaningful tasks, things you enjoy, find fulfillment in, even if it’s once a week, and taking time for you and your loved ones outside of work. I hate to exercise, but I love to work in the garden. I also try to “break a sweat” a few times a week by walking, or working on the elliptical. It’s still a challenge. The greatest self-care practice I have is to practice being patient and loving with myself. Some days are hard.