Relationships can be
abusive. Abuse comes in many
forms including physical, sexual,
stalking and/or emotional aggression. If
your partner is abusive, seek help as
soon as possible.
Common warning signs of abuse:
physically hurts you or threatens to
hurt you in any way (i.e. hitting,
punching, choking, shoving, etc.).
Your partner forces
you to have sex or take part in other
sexual acts when you do not want to or
after you say no.
Your partner threatens you with a weapon
or a gun.
Your partner has an
explosive temper. He or she is very
jealous and will not let you talk to
other men or women.
Your partner tells
you what to do and keeps you from
spending time with your friends and
Your partner puts
you down, calls you names, and/or tells
you that you are always wrong.
controls your money.
Your partner needs
to know where you are or checks your
social media accounts and text messages
without your permission.
threatens to leave you or hurt
themselves if you do not do what they
Getting help in an abusive
or violent situation
If your partner is abusive, get
help. There are many options to help you get out of an
unsafe and abusive situation:
trained people to listen to your story,
help you create a
safety plan, give you important
resources, and place you in safe
For toll-free confidential
calls, please call:
The National Domestic
Violence Hotline (Open 24 hours a
Angeles County Hotline
(Open 24 hours a
online live chats, go to the following
The National Domestic
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What can I
do if a friend of mine is in an abusive
or violent situation?
“You should just
leave.” Have you found yourself thinking
this about your friend’s relationship?
If you think your friend is in an
abusive or violent relationship, you can
help. Be aware of the different warning
signs listed above. Check out the tips
below to help a friend that is in an
Talk to your friend.
Tell them that you are
concerned for their
safety and well-being.
Listen, be supportive,
and respect their
Help your friend
understand that their
relationship may be
Connect your friend with
help them develop a
Encourage your friend to
spend time with their
friends and family.
Don’t try to rescue your
Leaving an abusive
situation is complicated.
Call any of these
numbers to get help with
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